You Were Warned.

“This is what adopted kids do, you were warned.”-Quote from an adopted child.

This is a message for adopted kids everywhere…

I am sorry adoption exists, I wish families weren’t broken and there wasn’t a need.

I am sorry you get put in situations when you must choose to live with strangers because your own biological families can’t or won’t step up.

I am sorry you carry an ache in your heart that consumes you so fiercely as each important day or milestone passes and you don’t hear from your bio family (in cases when it is permissible.)

I am sorry you have been shaped to chase unhealthy coping skills and often you resort to them out of fear and familiarity.

I am sorry for the internal struggle you face each day as you start to entertain the person you could be as the person you choose to be screams in your face.

Yes I said choose to be... No one can make you hold on or let go. No one can make you walk forward to be frozen in time.

You are not a sum of your past mistakes.

You are not a sum of your bio family’s past mistakes.

Though it can seem that the odds are against you from the beginning, the odds are just that that- odds.

I am sorry that emotions can be so big that you feel like you are a slave to them. I am here to say that I can relate. I know where I have been, and I don’t have to ever go there again. You don’t have too either. You can climb out; you can visit your past to get to your future.

I am sorry for what has happened to you. Though none of us can go back we do have the future to shape. Yes- shape. You are very powerful. This is a chance to not have things done to you but rather you can be in control!

Your origin story doesn’t determine your destiny. YOU DETERMINE what today and tomorrow looks like. Your destiny is not locked in based on your past.

You are not required to explode as bomb, when you turn 18. You do not have to burn bridges, so it is easier to separate from others so that choices are made from you.

Because.. you can’t burn this bridge.

Adoption isn't something you do to get something out of it, it is sacred and precious. A privilege.

Unconditional love means we aren’t going anywhere. Adoption is forever.

We chose you and we keep choosing you in even in the darkest night, the biggest hurt and the messy cries.

It is privilege to walk alongside you whether it is for 5 months, 5 years or just days.

Thank you for being brave and awesome.

You will forever be my heroes!